Yesterday I came accross a post on Reddit asking “How many bras should we own” and it made me realize that:
1. I have too many bras (though I knew this already)
2. I used to have a lot less bras and be really happy with that former amount.
3. Most people do with 4 bras and are ok with it.
But how much bras do we actually need and how long can we expect a bra to be in good shape?
Well, that answer is highly relative. I think it is important to realize that there are only 7 days in a week and that most people only have 2 breasts. Also, the sentence “you get what you pay for” is true.
I am a fan of the concept of wearing a particular type of bra with a particular outfit. I think a bra can definitely change the way a dress or shirt fit you and I love to play with that. For me it is good to have several bra cuts but keep in mind that not every cut will suit your own body shape. Honestly, unlined balconnets and demi-cup are the way to go for my kind of breasts while plunges and padded bras rarely work. Because of that, I almost never wear plunges unless I wear a dress with a very very low neck (which almost never happens).
I think having at least one padded bra is helpful since some clothes need more structure underneath to look good on me but I mostly wear unlined balconnets and demi-cup as I found them to be easy to wear under anything and flattering for my bust shape. I also feel more comfortable in light-weight lingerie.
The goal for me is to have 90% of well-fitting bra in my wardrobe and a margin of 10% for the fail attempts. That said, I try to get rid of bras that I don’t wear anymore since lingerie takes space. (I still have to organize a sale/giveaway for y’all… I am so sorry for my awful blogging organization.)
Well, I am probably at a very wrong place to tell anybody how many pieces of lingerie they should have, but I started to think about it and realized that it is super easy to become a bra hoarder, especially when you are both a lingerie addict and a blogger. The truth is that most people neither wear all of their clothes nor all of their bras. I remember starting my busty life with a handful of bralettes and bras in the wrong size and when I finally got fitted, I could only afford a couple of well-fitting bras because they were just so expensive. However, I LOVED these bras. I loved them so damn much, and took great care of them since it was so difficult to find my size at this time in the Caribbean and I knew it wouldn’t have been possible to buy tones of them anyway. So at this time, I was definitely wearing all of my lingerie pieces.
Going back to the bra hoarding subject, I think we all like having new stuff. It is exciting and fun but sometimes we forget about our real needs. As lingerie addicts, we always want to try new bras. Every bra is an new experience. Something I have noticed though when showing new bras possibilities to my boyfriend in lingerie stores is that his opinion can be either : this is so great! Or “you have way better stuff at home”. Though I don’t like the second answer (usually I am caught in the desire of getting something new and I can get a little unrealistic), it is fair enough and should be taken in consideration. I recently decided to change my shopping habits. I don’t own a lot of clothing because all my money goes into lingerie, hot chocolates, rent and school, however, I recently realized in the process of buying more ethically, that I didn’t need to have tones of clothes. I am way happier when everything in my closet fits perfectly and match my current needs and aesthetic even if it means I will have to wear often the same outfit. So, why could I not think the same way with lingerie?
Of course, everybody’s tastes are based on different criteria (ex: small bust vs full bust women) but at the end of the day, we tend to go for the reliable option and while we love experiences, very often, this fun unpractical bra stays in the drawer way longer than the amount of money we spent can justify it. Now I am not saying we should only buy everyday bras, but it is also good to be aware of that. I am in the process of getting rid of the bras I don’t wear often and as a result, I realized that I only wear the same brands all the time because they meet my expectations in term of design, comfort and practicality. I am not this person who will wear black t-shirt bras on a daily basis. Not saying that it is bad, but I am kind of vaccinated and I honestly go for the prettier options that fits me best and that is the most comfortable.
My passion for lingerie and my blog leads me to try new brands as often as my wallet can handle it but if I was not a blogger I think I would honestly just save for my dream well-fitting lingerie and all I would wear would be Harlow and Fox, Empreinte, Avocado, and Ellesmere lingerie because at the end of the day, even if there are tons of amazing other brands out there, I really really like a perfectly-fitting bra and I like knowing that I’ll be happy with the products I pay for. I love consistency in quality also, which removes the stress of bad surprises. Now the subject of this post is not my good and bad habits but what I think would be a good lingerie routine/good lingerie shopping habits.
I can confidently say that I could do with 8 sets of lingerie, 2 sports bras and 3 supportive bralettes.
I said 8 sets of lingerie which include a few solutions bras, like strapless bras or super deep plunges, depending of your needs. The goal is just to not have so many bras that you can loose one and not even notice. Well, if you do sport everyday you might need more sport bras than that, but for myself, who only do sport twice a week, two is way enough. You might want to have a molded wired sports bra, which can be great for high impact sports, or if you are more of a yoga type of gal, you can reach for a lighter option as well. Of course, you know better than me what is necessary for your own comfort.
I said 3 bralettes but this number is rather arbitrary. I just think that bralettes have a shorter lifespan than bras, and we also tend to use them less often (us, fuller bust ladies), so it might be worth it to get the 3 unicorns that will last long and fit well, but having tones of them might not be so useful for most of us.
My reflexion on consumerism, made me realize that as a lingerie blogger, I tend to go in two weirdly opposite directions:
1_ Getting less selective.
I grew up in a middle class family originally coming from the working class, and I have always been taught to take care of my stuff for them to last a lifetime. Growing up I used to hesitate for every single thing I would buy because they had to be the perfect thing to spend my money in , and then I would take care of them and keep them for as long as my logic allowed it. Where am I going with this? Well, since money mattered a lot, I would not buy anything for the sake of trying new stuff or fulfilling some void in my life. I would think and rethink until I knew that this new thing would add-on to my life. Of course I made mistakes, but you got me.
Becoming a blogger didn’t make me richer (actually I am probably poorer) but I got to try so many pieces of lingerie that I don’t NEED new bras anymore. Because of that, anything that I buy is only a plus. It is neither my only chance to get a new bra nor it is a huge deal if it fails (except for the huge disappointment that it causes me). So for a longtime I tended to try brands that I knew could be disappointing again and again because their ads looked pretty and their customers were very supportive (leading me to think that they could maybe stop disappointing me if I tried enough lol). And then I saw my very selective and thrifty self, getting less and less selective and worst and worst at saving. I got into the addiction of owning new stuffs, the feeling of receiving gifts from myself and the adventure of discovering a new product. But at the end, I am still my old picky self and I end up only using the things that fit and look the best on me. I know not everything is about fit but really, I am not this person that will compromise on fit to wear something cute. My breasts doesn’t allow most cute things to look good if they are ill-fitting and I can’t deal with the discomfort of it either.
_ Wanting more and more luxurious stuff.
At the same time, you can definitely get hooked up by the internet always showing you more and more expensive stuff. Of course, you choose who you decide to follow, but fashion is an expensive hobby if you don’t give into fast fashion. Anyway, you start following people who have the possibility to pay for expensive lingerie or the opportunity to work with luxury brands. Of course you might not want to buy expensive stuff. It’s just that the things you like start to get more and more expensive. Your tastes change and then you slowly but surely become addicted to silk and expensive lace. But since you also spend your money on cheaper stuff (aka impulse purchase on asos), you can’t necessarily afford the thing you really want.
Well, that is why I recommend to myself and others to own a “reasonable” amount of lingerie. When you own less things, you tend to care more about them, to love them more and longer and when you choose to add something new to your collection, at least your mind is in peace and has more space to think about the why and the how you are going to get that thing. I am not saying this is going to be easy (I am the one that doesn’t have anymore space to stock her panties) , but I know I am not the only one, and I remember a time when I had just enough sets to wear a different one every day of the week but not more, and I felt really good at this time with my collection. I actually cherished it. Plus when you don’t buy every cute thing that crosses your way you also have more money to spend on things you will actually love forever. So I am not saying it is bad to want luxurious stuff ( I will never say that,I am just getting pickier and pickier through the years) or to try new amazing designers (they also have to make money, right?) but maybe it is worth it to have a smaller collection of stuff that have a bigger value (sentimental and financial).
Another thing also that is worth saying… If you wash your lingerie by hand, even the cheapest bra can actually last long. I heard that a bra is supposed to last 12 to 18 months but I disagree. I have some old Gossard bras that I bought 5 years ago and which still look amazing. Of course your body might evolve, and if you only own a couple of bras they will get damage faster than if you only wear them once every two weeks but taking the time to wash your lingerie in a delicate way, by hand and to carefully put the right colours together, might help you to keep your underwear in a great shape for way more than a year.
This post is meant to open a discussion so feel free to tell me if you think I am wrong or if you have any advices that you’d like to share!