Yesterday, after coming across a post on Reddit asking “How many bras should we own”, I realize that:
1. I have too many bras (though I knew this already)
2. I used to have a lot fewer bras and be really happy with that former amount.
3. Most people do with 4 bras and are ok with it.
But how many bras do we actually need and how long can we expect a bra to be in good shape?
Well, that answer is highly relative. I think it is important to realize that there are only 7 days in a week and that most people only have 2 breasts. Also, the sentence “you get what you pay for” is true.
Ellesmere Botanical demi-bra (cut and sew).
How many bras do you need?
I am a fan of the concept of wearing a particular type of bra with a particular outfit. I think a bra can definitely change the way a dress or shirt fits you and I love to play with that.
– Padded bras: 2*
For me, it is good to have several bra cuts but keep in mind that not every cut will suit your own body shape. I think having at least one padded bra is helpful since some clothes need more structure underneath to look good on me. For you, it might be a question of modesty.
– Cut-and-sew bras: 4*
Unlined cut-and-sew and demi-cup bras are my favorite as I found them to be easy to wear under anything and flattering for my bust shape. I also feel more comfortable in light-weight lingerie. It’s good to have at least 2 or 3 bras of your preferred style if it’s a style that works with most of your wardrobe and very importantly, your bust.
– Sports bras: 1-3* depending on how often your work out, really.
Know that the more you will wear the same piece, the faster it will need replacement. Obvious, isn’t it? But I think it’s worth mentioning, as it might be interesting to have several bras rather than using always the same one and needing to replace it super fast.
I added * to the numbers I suggested to indicated that they are only based on my own use and preferences. Empreinte Initiale sports bra and leggings
– Bralettes: 2-3*
Bralettes fill different purposes. Some of us find them more comfortable for they are wireless. Others will use them because they make them feel good about their body, or because they are lighter and provide a more natural shape under clothes. Whatever is your reason, well, you are the only one knowing how often you will need to wear them. I always opt for the supportive ones and I think 3 would be a good number for me.
– Strapless bras: 2*
Well-fitting strapless bras are a must-have in your wardrobe, but they aren’t easy to find. I personally think that a padded one and a non-padded one would be very good to have but of course, depending on your size only one option might be available. A black one and one that fits your skin tone would be especially useful for evening gowns or summer dresses.
The goal for me is to have 90% of well-fitting bra in my wardrobe and a margin of 10% for the fail attempts or fashion bras that aren’t meant to “fit”. That being said, I try to get rid of bras that I don’t wear anymore since lingerie takes space.
My passion for lingerie and my blog leads me to try new brands as often as my wallet can handle it but if I was not a blogger I think I would honestly just save for my dream well-fitting lingerie and all I would wear would be Harlow and Fox, Empreinte, Avocado, and Ellesmere lingerie.
At the end of the day, even if there are tons of amazing other brands out there, I really really like a perfectly-fitting bra and I like knowing that I’ll be happy with the products I pay for. I love consistency in quality also, which removes the stress of bad surprises. Now the subject of this post is not my good and bad habits but what I think would be a good lingerie routine/good lingerie shopping habits.
A lingerie addict point of view
Now, I am probably at a very wrong place to tell anybody how many pieces of lingerie they should have. I simply started to think about it and realized that it is super easy to become a bra hoarder, especially when you are both a lingerie addict and a blogger.
The truth is that most people neither wear all of their clothes nor all of their bras. I remember starting my busty life with a handful of bralettes and bras in the wrong size and when I finally got fitted, I could only afford a couple of well-fitting bras because they were just so expensive. However, I LOVED these bras. I loved them so damn much and took great care of them since it was so difficult to find my size at this time in the Caribbean. I knew it wouldn’t have been possible to buy tones of them anyway. So at this time, I was definitely wearing all of my lingerie pieces.
That is why I recommend to myself and others to own a “reasonable” amount of lingerie – or anything you love buying really. When you own fewer things, you tend to care more about them, to love them more and longer. Then, when you choose to add something new to your collection, at least your mind is in peace and has more space to think about the why and the how you are going to get that thing.
I am not saying this is going to be easy. I am the one that doesn’t have any more space to stock her panties. Though I know I am not the only one, and I remember a time when I had just enough sets to wear a different one every day of the week but not more, and I felt really good at this time with my collection. I actually cherished it.
Plus when you don’t buy every cute thing that crosses your way you also have more money to spend on things you will actually love forever. So I am not saying it is bad to want luxurious stuff. I will never say that I am just getting pickier and pickier through the years. It’s not bad either to try new amazing designers (they also have to make money, right?). However, maybe it is worth it to have a smaller collection of stuff that has a bigger – sentimental and financial- value.
Another thing also that is worth saying… If you wash your lingerie by hand, even the cheapest bra can actually last long. I heard that a bra is supposed to last 12 to 18 months but I disagree. I have some old Gossard bras that I bought 5 years ago and which still look amazing. Of course, your body might evolve, and if you only own a couple of bras they will get damage faster than if you only wear them once every two weeks. Now, taking the time to wash your lingerie in a delicate way, by hand and to carefully put the right colors together, might help you to keep your underwear in great shape for way more than a year.
This post is meant to open a discussion so feel free to tell me if you think I am wrong or if you have any advice that you’d like to share!